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"I can't believe our
mediation went so
smoothly. I am
certain we would
have wound up
not speaking to
each other if we
mediation went so
smoothly. I am
certain we would
have wound up
not speaking to
each other if we
What is Divorce Mediation?
Divorce Mediation is a process by which you and your
spouse or partner can negotiate an agreement in the
terms of your divorce or separation in a cooperative,
non-adversarial way.
Divorce Mediation is a process by which you and your
spouse or partner can negotiate an agreement in the
terms of your divorce or separation in a cooperative,
non-adversarial way.
went to an attorney. Now we can cooperatively parent
our children." Barbara L.
our children." Barbara L.
| Frequently Asked Questions |
Do you want a divorce yet do not know where to turn?
Are you afraid to go to an attorney because of the
heavy fees involved?
Do you want to avoid the adversarial legal process
and remain "friends with your spouse?
Are you interested in the best interests of your
children?
Are you afraid to go to an attorney because of the
heavy fees involved?
Do you want to avoid the adversarial legal process
and remain "friends with your spouse?
Are you interested in the best interests of your
children?
When couples decide to divorce, they often find
themselves in unknown territory. Some experience
great turmoil. Others emotionally divorced many
years prior and feel relieved. The rest fall
somewhere in the middle.
For most, though, divorce represents transition...
and transitions...although holding the seeds for
growth and change, often are uncomfortable. When
children are involved, the decision can become
even more confusing.
Many times when a couple wishes to divorce, they
choose to seek an attorney to assist them with this
process. Often because of the nature of the divorce
process in New York State, two people who wanted
to have a colegial type of divorce wind up bitter
enemies.
Divorce Mediation enables the couple to focus on
the best interests of the children and to develop a
parenting plan that will help them raise their children
with minimal issues.
Divorce Mediation assists people in doing A
Competent Divorce.
themselves in unknown territory. Some experience
great turmoil. Others emotionally divorced many
years prior and feel relieved. The rest fall
somewhere in the middle.
For most, though, divorce represents transition...
and transitions...although holding the seeds for
growth and change, often are uncomfortable. When
children are involved, the decision can become
even more confusing.
Many times when a couple wishes to divorce, they
choose to seek an attorney to assist them with this
process. Often because of the nature of the divorce
process in New York State, two people who wanted
to have a colegial type of divorce wind up bitter
enemies.
Divorce Mediation enables the couple to focus on
the best interests of the children and to develop a
parenting plan that will help them raise their children
with minimal issues.
Divorce Mediation assists people in doing A
Competent Divorce.
How do I know if Divorce Mediation is right for us?
You basically don't. But if you are interested in
mediating your divorce, go to a divorce mediator for a
few sessions and see if you find it helpful.
What are the advantages of Divorce Mediation?
Divorce Mediation saves time, money and emotional
energy. Because the divorce mediator is trained to
control the process, arguments do not escalate and
real communication about the very real issues of
divorce can begin. By helping you develop creative
parenting arrangements, divorce mediation can help
you maintain the parenting part of your relationship
even though the couple part has dissolved.
Will the Divorce Mediator try to get us back
together?
No, getting couples back together is the goal of the
couples therapist. The divorce mediator assumes that
because you have come for mediation that you have
already made the decision to divorce.
What happens during the Divorce Mediation
Process?
During the first session of mediation, the divorce
mediator will explain the process and give you forms
to take home and fill out. The divorce mediator may
also give you some handouts if you have children
giving you direction on how to competently help your
children through the divorce. Once you have filled out
the forms you return to the mediator and discuss the
areas that you were able to agree on and those
where you had problems.
The divorce mediator will also stress that you can
make any agreement that you want, and if needed,
the mediator will explain the laws and norms for
divorce in your area.
You basically don't. But if you are interested in
mediating your divorce, go to a divorce mediator for a
few sessions and see if you find it helpful.
What are the advantages of Divorce Mediation?
Divorce Mediation saves time, money and emotional
energy. Because the divorce mediator is trained to
control the process, arguments do not escalate and
real communication about the very real issues of
divorce can begin. By helping you develop creative
parenting arrangements, divorce mediation can help
you maintain the parenting part of your relationship
even though the couple part has dissolved.
Will the Divorce Mediator try to get us back
together?
No, getting couples back together is the goal of the
couples therapist. The divorce mediator assumes that
because you have come for mediation that you have
already made the decision to divorce.
What happens during the Divorce Mediation
Process?
During the first session of mediation, the divorce
mediator will explain the process and give you forms
to take home and fill out. The divorce mediator may
also give you some handouts if you have children
giving you direction on how to competently help your
children through the divorce. Once you have filled out
the forms you return to the mediator and discuss the
areas that you were able to agree on and those
where you had problems.
The divorce mediator will also stress that you can
make any agreement that you want, and if needed,
the mediator will explain the laws and norms for
divorce in your area.
You work with a divorce
mediator who is impartial and
non-judgmental. The divorce
mediator helps you develop
an agreement that plans for
the future,
mediator who is impartial and
non-judgmental. The divorce
mediator helps you develop
an agreement that plans for
the future,
and if you have children, will help you develop a
parenting plan for them.
parenting plan for them.
To schedule an appointment call or
E-Mail us at jatwood@optonline.net
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